You know what I don’t like? Calling people beautiful or pretty or complimenting their physical appearance when you’re trying to compliment them.
I’m not beautiful or pretty. My butt is weird-shaped, my nose is slightly too large, I have circles under my eyes, a unibrow, a mustache, and slightly…
Woah woah woah. There are two conflicting parts of these statements and it really bothers me. The first part is flattery. Not a compliment, but flattery. Everyone hates flattery. It’s not a good thing, as it really can mess with your perception of what is honest and what isn’t. I’m certain that a part of all that you’re hearing is it.
However, you’re mixing something else into it. You’re assuming that all positive comments about your looks are a form of it. You’re assuming that what these people are saying isn’t true. Well, I hate to break it to you, but it is. You may look at yourself and think “this is not attractive,” but that doesn’t make it fact in any sense.
You are really gorgeous. We all are. We are a variation in a set of coding, we are all a separate phenomenon whose uniqueness is unrivaled. You are a specimen of perfection, as is everyone else. This attractiveness thing is a social construct where we attempt to categorize people on their physical appearance. Yet there is no true standard. This means that you are not set on a scale next to anyone, and that you need not be burdened by thinking you are. You may be told otherwise, but fuck those people, they literally don’t realize that they are just repeating what they’ve seen.
And you, don’t repeat what you’ve seen. You are the most attractive person I know. If there was one thing different about you, you’d’ve not been the same person you are today, and I would not trade you for the world or any AU. Next time you hear that, know that “Fuck yeah, I’m perfect exactly as I am because perfection is defined as I define it and it is me.” And I know that’s tough. It’s tough for me in the morning, when I look in the mirror, when I go to sleep at night. But then I just think “If the standard for beauty was the ability to slap others with fish, would it actually be beautiful?”